I have many reasons for choosing to be childfree, but I do not owe anybody a single one.
I will not act as if being childfree is something I should have to make up for by involving children in my life in other ways, or by making frequent public proclamations that I love children. I will never utter the phrase, “I love children, but…”
I will immediately have an abortion in the unlikely event of pregnancy. I will do so without hesitation, doubt, shame, or the consideration of anyone else’s opinion.
I will not tolerate people claiming that my dog is a subconscious substitute for a child. She’s a dog. I got a dog because a dog is what I wanted. I prefer dogs. I will not call myself my dog’s “mommy” or refer to her as a “fur-baby.” She’s a dog.
I will not regard motherhood is the pinnacle of womanhood, or fatherhood for manhood, or parenthood for adulthood.
I will not validate parents carrying on like their tired somehow is more tired than my tired.
I will not pretend that it’s acceptable to bring children everywhere and at every time.
I will not accept “kids will be kids” as a valid excuse for parents to fail to parent (verb.) Further, I will not pretend that child misbehavior is cute in any way.